First things First

In a couple weeks my family and I will make our move down to Austin, Texas to help my brother, Ross, plant a new church called ONEchapel. We could not be more excited knowing Jesus has called us into this new, cool season of service.

I now have this unique opportunity to re-look at everything we have done in _tag Student Ministries at New Life Church for the past decade and consider what we might do differently in a new culture with new friends and new opportunities. I have this somewhat unique perspective of being the guy from the mega church student ministry who gets to start from scratch.

Of course, the message remains the same, but the methods do not. Austin isn’t Colorado Springs and 2010 isn’t 2000.

So my question is, if this was you, what would you do first? I certainly have my own vision, ideas, and direction but wonder what some of my youth pastor friends and colleagues would say if they were in my position. Would love to hear from you.

Would you?

1. Start planning for intimate small group connection.

2. Plan on the big, attractional event to kick things off.

3. Go after and train leaders.

4. Start visiting schools.

5. Focus on a core of church kids.

6. Plan some justice / service events.

This is simply a very brief list to get your mind moving. What would you do?

Essentially, it’s a reminder to all of us that we should always be mindful of what Jesus is saying TODAY so we don’t get trapped in the successes or the failures of YESTERDAY. Both can be traps and should never be taken too seriously. Maybe this is a good exercise to remind us what the most important things are that Jesus has called us to do today. Perhaps there are a few remnants of old ideas that you are hanging on to (or they are hanging on to you). Maybe it’s time to return to some of the first and most important things.

First things First. Matthew 6:33.

Time to Retreat

“Camps and Retreats for young people are just spiritual highs. They create little to no lasting change in the day to day lives of kids.” Ever heard or said anything like that? I know I have thought about it. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve always believed they were important. But I used to be almost apologetic about camp and retreat experiences because of the emotional hype that sometimes surrounds them. Recently, I attended a luncheon hosted by Rick Lawrence, editor of Group Magazine, and he discussed some of the more successful ways churches cultivate spiritual formation in students. In a Group survey, the majority of believers polled told stories of dynamic life change in their journey with Jesus happening at a Camp or Retreat. It’s true for me. Most of the top transformational moments in my life happened at a camp or retreat. I bet you have similar stories. If you’ve been tempted to write off camps or retreats as simple spiritual highs, perhaps it’s time to re-consider.

In Scripture, we often read that Jesus would get away to a solitary place to connect with His Father. I know what you’re thinking. There’s nothing “solitary” about retreating to the mountains with a bunch of teenagers for a weekend. In fact, we usually need our own solitary experience after those weekends. But the vision for these events is to get away from the distractions and busyness of life to allow Jesus to speak to us. I believe when we set that time aside for Him, He sets some “time” aside for us and our students.

A few weekends ago I spoke at a great youth retreat with an incredible and passionate church led by a fantastic friend and youth pastor. It got me thinking about all the retreat and camp experiences I have created throughout the years and some of the things we have done to, hopefully, make them so powerful and effective. Since now is the time for Summer Camp planning, maybe a couple of them will be helpful to you.

1. Start with the vision, theme, and goal for the weekend.

This should be the obvious starting point, but it often
isn’t. What is God saying to you, your team, your students, and your church?
What do you sense He wants to accomplish? We always pray for the direction that
we believe Jesus desires to take us. That provides us our theme and the
direction for all of our meetings and that’s where we go. Most of the time our
meetings spend more time in experiencing the Presence of God than the passing of
information. Face it, we preach plenty every week. We don’t always have
extended time to sit and soak. Pray. Ask God for direction. Go there.

2. Go all out with games and activities.

After you receive your theme and direction, plan some insane
games and activities. This is one of the things that sometimes falls to the
bottom of the “TO DO” list. But the time you spend having fun together is
second only to the spiritual direction of the camp. If you have powerful,
experiential meetings with Jesus and incredible, engaging activities, you will
have a transformational weekend. You must have both. As you plan, do things
that students can’t or won’t do somewhere else. Don’t think in terms of typical
sports or your basic dodge ball game. Think in terms of insane memory makers.
You want students and leaders walking away saying, “I can’t believe we just did
that.” (Keeping injuries to a minimum, of course). And don’t think you can’t do
something because of your numbers. With a little creativity, you can make games
work at any number.

3. Build teams for connection, community, and communication.

One of the main reasons we hold these events is so our students and leaders can connect with one another and develop stronger community that will lead to discipleship. If you are going to create community, you have to plan for it. The best way to do this is to create teams of around 16 to 24 students led by 3 or 4 leaders.  Let each team create a name, color, mascot, cheer, song, etc. to provide incredible buy-in for their students. Utilize these teams for discussions on the theme of the retreat. Encourage leaders to look for their team members at altar calls, meal times, and free times. Have teams compete with one another to solidify every student’s sense of belonging. And don’t underestimate the importance of using teams for security. Teams are the primary way we keep track of students. Teams will take the long lasting effect of your retreat to the next level.

Fall Retreat Sample Team Suggestions

4. Train your leaders well at least one week out.

I take 2 to 3 hours or so to train our leaders at least one week before the actual event. I want them to understand what I expect of them and ensure they don’t have any doubts or questions. We go over all the leadership expectations as well as what we require of students. We give them lists of the students on their team so they can connect with and pray for them before we go. I also give them time to brainstorm the creative ideas for their team identity. I always leave some time for them to pray together. I have been to too many camps where leaders stand around in the back disconnected. Get them up front and engaged all weekend by giving them responsibilities and telling them what you expect them to do. They can do it.

Fall Retreat Sample Leader Expectations

Fall Retreat Sample Rules Meeting

5. Schedule a full weekend and be ready to change.

I know when we think of a retreat we often think of some chill time in the mountains with Jesus. I like to run students ragged. Pack out the schedule with a healthy balance of meetings, activities, discussion, fun, and free time. Things can get “interesting” when you allow too much free time. Don’t be afraid to run them hard for the weekend. But always allow flexibility in your schedule. If you want to shift an hour or a half hour here or there, go for it. Take your meetings longer as Jesus leads. Ditch a game that isn’t working and replace it with something else. Most importantly, listen to the voice of the Holy Spriit and go where he wants to go for the weekend. If you run a full and balanced schedule, students will leave with a fulfilling and transforming experience (and they’ll sleep better at night which means fewer shenanigans).

Fall Retreat Sample Schedule

Jesus changed my life forever at camps. If you implement some of these ideas at your next camp, He will change the lives of your students and maybe transform you a little too.

Finish the Race…and watch the replay

If you were a member of _tag over the last decade, you might dig this stroll down memory lane. Tim Dumais, Drew MacAlmon, and Jon Egan put this together and showed it on our farewell night at _tag a few weeks ago. I was honored and overwhelmed with the outpouring of love that night. The past 10 years were some of the best of our lives and I'll never forget all the miraculous work that Jesus did. I know there's a lot more coming. 

Some of you know I recently posted the story of what God is calling Maria and I to do in this new season of our lives. We're heading down to Austin, Texas with my brother, Ross, and his family to plant a church called ONEchapel. You can read about that in my previous post if you like. 

If you have 4 minutes or so it might be worth it just to see the different hair styles. Oh, and the fact that I look 12 years old through half the video is pretty fun as well. We're proud of the fact that Jesus gave us the strength and the grace to finish well. If you watch this video, maybe take some time to ask Him to help you finish your assignment well too…2 Timothy 4:7

_tag’s farewell to Brent from Brent Parsley on Vimeo.

Glimpses of the last decade of ministry with Brent and _tag. Put together by Tim Dumais, Drew MacAlmon, and Jon Egan and shown on Brent’s farewell night at _tag.

Turning the Page

About a week ago I did something I thought I would never do.
After 10 years as the youth pastor for _tag student ministries at New Life
Church in Colorado Springs, I had my last night as the youth pastor here. If
you know me at all you will know that this was no easy decision. I believe in
staying put. I believe in longevity in working with teenagers. I also believe
I’m a lifetime youth pastor. I don’t expect that I will always pastor in the
same way that I have pastored here. No doubt, I’m getting older. Some might
think that would disqualify me as a youth pastor. I happen to think it makes me
better. Sure, I’m not as energetic as I used to be. All nighters are no longer listed
among my favorite activities. I’m not as quick with youth and pop culture
(though I’m not too shabby). But I also won’t make the same mistakes I used to
make. I have learned a few things along the way. I’ve grown in wisdom. I’ve
gained experience in ministry in the midst of some of the most difficult situations
life has to offer. And now we’ll see what God has in store. One thing I can say
for sure is that the past 10 years here have been some of the most incredible,
challenging, and rewarding years of my life. As my wife, Maria, and I move on
we take with us memories and friendships that will last a lifetime.

 I planned on pastoring _tag and New Life for the rest of my
days and then thought about possibly being buried somewhere in the floor in the
_tag auditorium. Creepy, I know. My secret hope was that all these incredible
students would fail their classes so I could be 70 and they could be 50 and we
would continue to pursue Jesus and change a generation together. I’m not sure that
was a great plan. And even though students seemed to think it was a good idea,
parents never seemed to like it much. Though that was my secret and, albeit
strange, heart’s desire I have always left a little room in my heart for God to
anything and everything He ever wants to do with me.

 About one year ago Jesus started working in that portion of
my heart, and I realized some new things were beginning to stir. Around this
same time my brother Ross was stirring with God’s call to plant a new church.
So Maria and I started asking questions of one another, of trusted friends, of
spiritual authorities in our lives like our parents and pastor, and, most
importantly, of Jesus. We sensed Jesus had plans that did not include my being
memorialized in the middle of the _tag auditorium. Then the whispers began. Not
the “LOST” kind of whispers that are super scary and unexplainable. I’m talking
about the quiet whispers of the Holy Spirit. You know, the kind that are
unsettling and comforting all at the same time. Along with those whispers
started to come the confirmations that God was indeed saying we were to partner
with Ross, his wife, Aimee, and their 5 (yes, 5) children. (Hey, instant
student ministry). As we continued to pursue God’s whispers and subsequent confirmations
we knew that God was leading us to our next season.  

 The confirmations have been vast, varied, and too numerous
to list here. But they all culminated as we wrapped up our Fall Retreat at the
end of October. We were finishing a strong night of worship, prayer, and
ministry. I said a closing prayer from the stage and as I said “Amen” I heard
the words in my heart, “Good job. You did it. You crossed the finish line. You
finished well.” It was a powerful moment for me. Unbeknownst to me, my wife
heard the same thing in her heart in the back of the room at the same time. So,
we knew this was it. The time had come to close this wonderful chapter and open
the next one.

 So my family and I are planting a church called ONEchapel in
Austin, Texas with my brother, Ross, and his family. What does that mean for a
“lifetime” student ministry guy? I’m not sure yet. No doubt we’ll fulfill a
number of new duties, but I will continue to pastor teenagers and will, most
likely, add to that children and college. We think Jesus is giving us some
fresh ideas on the family in the local church and we’re really excited about running
with that vision. More to come on that later.  I’ll also continue to connect with and coach youth pastors
because I believe God has called me to do that and it’s something else that I
really love. I’m also going to work on this blog a little bit and see if I have
some helpful things to add to the church and youth ministry conversations. It
might be interesting to be the guy from the Mega Church who goes back and
starts from scratch. But hey, I make no guarantees.

 One thing is certain. I’m going to love Jesus, love my wife,
love my kids, love teenagers and their families, love youth pastors, and love
the Body of Christ. To me, that sounds like a really great life.

 And If you’ve read this far you’re either really bored or
you’re my Mom. In either case you’re welcome to come along for the journey if
you would like.

 Thanks. Here we go. Let’s equip a generation to be life-long disciples of Jesus.

 Brent

Follower of Jesus, Husband, Dad, and Pastor

 www.onechapel.com

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You are Invited.

It’s certainly safe to say that I currently rank in the 97th percentile of the worst blogger type people in the world. I’m ok with that for now. However, I was cruising around these here “interwebs” and happened on this blog that appears to belong to me. So, I thought I would throw a little something up. 

We recently returned from our _tag Fall Retreat. What an incredible time with Jesus and a lot of really incredible and passionate students. I think it probably ranks somewhere in my top 3 retreats with _tag. The whole thing centered around the idea that God has extended to us an Eternal Invitation. It doesn’t go away. We should always run to it and never away from it. What’s the Invitation to? Best Part. It’s not an event, a circumstance, a feeling, an emotion, or anything like that. This Invitation is to a person and His name is Jesus. Just Jesus. Sometimes we do folks a major disservice by preaching Jesus “and”…. Come to Jesus “and” you’ll get… Come to Jesus “and” He will… Come to Jesus “and” you will… Not interested anymore. 

Let’s just come to Jesus. 

We had some kids give their lives to Jesus for the first time, some were baptized in the Holy Spirit. We baptized a whole bunch in water. What a weekend! So I thought I would share some memories and remind you (anyone who might read this) that you are Invited. Let’s go.